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When Shared Mission Becomes a Shared Walk

Why Fellowship is Essential with Karina Lepkowski, Principal, Most Holy Trinity

Fellowship is more than networking. It is more than collaboration around a project, committee, or a professional learning day. Fellowship is what happens when trust is built over time, shared mission becomes a shared walk, and colleagues become the trusted voices we return to because we know they will listen, encourage, challenge, and help us see more clearly.

Today, I had the joy of meeting with Karina Lepkowski, Principal at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Academy in the Archdiocese of Detroit. Karina and I have been collaborators for 14 years. She served on my team at St. Regis Catholic School, we have worked together on committees, and she has led sessions for professional learning days I developed for the Archdiocese of Baltimore. Over the years, our professional paths have crossed in many meaningful ways. But perhaps one of the most treasured parts of our story is this: Karina introduced my son to music and taught him how to play the alto saxophone. His love of jazz and the gift of having music in his heart will last him a lifetime. For that, I will always be grateful to this amazing educator, and I am honored to call her a friend now.

About Karina

Karina Lepkowski is a distinguished Catholic educator and graduate of the University of Notre Dame’s Alliance for Catholic Education (ACE) Mary Ann Remick Leadership Program. As a member of Cohort 18, she earned a Master of Arts in Educational Leadership and has continued to serve Catholic education with dedication, wisdom, and heart. Her leadership and service were also recognized by the Catholic Foundation of Michigan, which honored her with an Amazing Catholic Educator Award.

A Servant Leader

While these accomplishments speak beautifully to Karina’s professional impact, what I value most is the way she leads through relationships. She is the kind of educator and leader who listens deeply, shares generously, and reminds others that the work of Catholic education is strengthened when we walk alongside one another.

As Karina and I caught up and discussed projects we are working on, I was reminded of something important. Educational leaders need trusted voices. We need people who understand the work, who know the heart behind the work, and who can offer honest insight because the relationship is rooted in care. These are the colleagues who help us process ideas, sharpen our thinking, and stay grounded in mission. They remind us that leadership was never meant to be a lonely road.

Research continues to affirm what many of us have experienced in our own leadership journeys. Strong professional learning is collaborative, sustained, and grounded in reflection. Darling-Hammond, Hyler, and Gardner (2017) found that effective professional development creates opportunities for educators to share ideas, collaborate in job-embedded ways, and build communities that can positively influence the culture and instruction of a school or system. Similarly, research on collective teacher culture points to the importance of shared goals, supportive colleagues, collective efficacy, and belonging as important dimensions of a healthy school culture.

This is why fellowship matters. When leaders intentionally build relationships of trust and professional friendship, they strengthen the culture around them. Fellowship helps us become better listeners. It helps us ask better questions. It gives us space to pause, reflect, and renew. It also helps us remember that the work of education is deeply human. Behind every initiative, every professional learning session, every school improvement goal, and every strategic plan are people who need encouragement, connection, and belonging.

In my own research on teacher retention, school climate, leadership, collaboration, and culture emerged as important areas of focus in understanding how educators experience their work and what helps them remain committed to the mission (Ball, 2023). Positive school culture is not built by accident. It is formed through intentional relationships, shared purpose, and the daily decision to walk alongside one another.

As educational leaders, we often spend time developing strategic muscles: planning, decision-making, problem-solving, communication, and execution. These are important. However, I would share that research supports that we also need to be just as intentional about building the muscle of fellowship. Collective teacher culture is strengthened through shared goals and values, collective efficacy, supportive colleagues, belonging, and job satisfaction, all of which remind us that trusted professional relationships are central to healthy school communities (Skaalvik & Skaalvik, 2021). Who are the trusted voices we call when we need to think out loud? Who helps us see the good when the work feels heavy? Who reminds us of who we are and why this work matters?

The summer weeks offer a beautiful invitation to pause and reach out. Send the text, make the call, or schedule the coffee. Technology offers us the wonderful ability to connect via Zoom, Meet, FaceTime, etc. We really have no excuse not to engage with the technological tools at our fingertips today. I encourage you to reconnect with the colleague who has walked part of the journey with you. Take time to say thank you to the person who helped shape your leadership, your school community, or even your family in ways that will last a lifetime. Gratitude has a way of lowering our stress levels and refocusing our lens to see the good all around us.

When we make time to walk alongside one another, we build the kind of school culture where others can do the same.

This year, my research has continued to center around school culture and team development. In my two latest projects, When We Train Our Eyes to See the Good, Amazing Things Happen and The Middle School Culture Blueprint, which I am co-authoring with Dr. LaTonya White, I have been reflecting deeply on the gift of fellowship and why it matters so much for educational leaders. If you would like to share your thoughts, please send me a message or leave a comment. I welcome the feedback and insights.

Dr. LaTonya White and Dr. Denise Ball, National Catholic Leadership Convention 2026

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,
Denise

References

Ball, D. M. (2023). Improving teacher retention within Archdiocese of Washington schools [Doctoral dissertation, Liberty University]. Liberty University Scholars Crossing.

Darling-Hammond, L., Hyler, M. E., & Gardner, M. (2017). Effective teacher professional development. Learning Policy Institute.

Skaalvik, E. M., & Skaalvik, S. (2021). Collective teacher culture: Exploring an elusive construct and its relations with teacher autonomy, belonging, and job satisfaction. Social Psychology of Education, 24, 1389–1406.

United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. (2011). New American Bible, Revised Edition.

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Summer Fellowship: A Time to Pause, Reflect, and Renew

There is something calming about the summer weeks in education. The pace shifts, the calendar breathes, and the noise of the school year begins to quiet just enough for leaders, teachers, and all those who serve school communities to pause and remember why the work matters. Why we CHOOSE to serve in education.

In my recent Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball conversation, Dr. Nicci Dowd offered a beautiful reflection on the gift of fellowship and the importance of walking alongside others in faith, service, and community. Her words were a gentle reminder that fellowship is not simply about being with others. It is about being known, encouraged, strengthened, and reminded that we are not meant to do this work alone. Serving in education is a ministry (Dowd, 2026). [Dr. Nicci Dowd]

Educational leadership can be deeply meaningful, but it can also be lonely. Leaders are often called to hold the vision, solve the problems, support the team, manage the unexpected, and remain steady for others. Research on educational leaders’ well-being reminds us that positive relationships, purpose, engagement, health, and meaning are important dimensions of flourishing in leadership (Doyle Fosco, 2022). In other words, leaders do not thrive by carrying the work alone. They thrive when they are connected to people, purpose, and practices that restore them. Sometimes it might be easier to withdraw during these summer months, but I encourage you to reach out to a colleague or friend you have not talked with in a while and listen, share, and take joy from the fellowship.

Fellowship is one of those restoring gifts. It creates space for honest conversation, shared wisdom, prayerful encouragement, and the quiet reminder that someone else understands the road we are walking. For educational leaders, fellowship may come through a trusted colleague, a mentor, a faith-filled friend, a professional learning community, or a simple summer conversation over coffee. These moments may seem small, but they can become anchors of belonging. My quick and random chat with Nicci today was an instant bucket filler and reminded me of just how important these brief moments of fellowship are to spark inspiration and creativity.

Belonging matters because school communities are relational communities. Research continues to affirm that educator well-being is shaped not only by individual habits, but also by the relational and organizational conditions of the school community (Cann et al., 2022). When educators feel supported, respected, encouraged, and connected to a shared mission, the culture of the school is strengthened. When leaders model that same need for connection, they give others permission to seek support as well.

This is especially important for school leaders who are constantly pouring into others. Emotionally supportive leadership has been linked to educator well-being, especially during seasons of challenge and change (Floman et al., 2023). Leaders who listen, encourage, regulate their own emotions, and offer meaningful support help create healthier school environments. Yet leaders also need spaces where they can receive that same encouragement. Fellowship reminds us that the encourager also needs encouragement.

Summer offers a natural invitation to renew these connections. It is a time to step back from the constant urgency of the school year and ask a few important questions:

Who helped me carry the work this year?

Who might need to hear from me?

Who reminds me of the good?

Who helps me reconnect with faith, purpose, and joy?

Who can I encourage this week?

These questions are simple, but they are powerful. A text message, a phone call, a walk with a friend, a handwritten note, or an invitation to meet for coffee, jump on a quick Zoom (thank you, Nicci) can become a moment of grace. In a profession where so many people give so much of themselves, reaching out is not one more task but an act of caring for ourselves and others.

For those of us called to serve in education, fellowship also strengthens mission. Research on teacher retention highlights the importance of collegial support, trust, shared purpose, recognition, and leadership practices that build relationships within the school community (Ball, 2023 & Lochmiller et al., 2024). When leaders cultivate belonging, they help create communities where people are more likely to feel valued and more willing to remain committed to the work.

I encourage those who serve in education to view the summer not as a retreat from the mission but as preparation to return to it with a renewed heart. We pause so we can listen. We reflect so we can learn. We reconnect so we can remember that the work of education is not meant to be carried out in isolation.

Hebrews reminds us to “rouse one another to love and good works” and to encourage one another (Hebrews 10:24). That encouragement is not accidental but a muscle meant to be practiced. It is a choice and a service to others. It is part of building communities where faith, service, and joy can take root.

So, during these summer weeks, reach out. Call the colleague who lifted your spirit this year. Send a message to the friend who always helps you see the good. Thank the mentor who helped you keep going. Invite someone into conversation. Make room for fellowship. I jam every day on praise and worship. I try to share a link to a song at least once or twice a week with those who come to mind as I pray through song. Please be encouraged to share how you stay connected. This is a blog for learning!

We are better when we walk together…

When we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen.

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

References

Cann, R. F., Sinnema, C., Daly, A. J., Rodway, J., & Liou, Y.-H. (2022). The power of school conditions: Individual, relational, and organizational influences on educator wellbeing. Frontiers in Psychology, 13, Article 775614. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.775614

Doyle Fosco, S. L. (2022). Educational leader wellbeing: A systematic review. Educational Research Review, 37, Article 100487. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.edurev.2022.100487

Floman, J. L., Ponnock, A., Jain, J., & Brackett, M. A. (2023). Emotionally intelligent school leadership predicts educator well-being before and during a crisis. Frontiers in Psychology, 14, Article 1159382. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1159382

Lochmiller, C. R., Perrone, F., & Finley, C. (2024). Understanding school leadership’s influence on teacher retention in high-poverty settings: An exploratory study in the U.S. Education Sciences, 14(5), Article 545. https://doi.org/10.3390/educsci140505

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