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August 28, 2026 · 1:01 PM

Joy in the Partnership: The Pastor-Principal Relationship and the Culture We Create

Joy in the Work | Episode 4 | A Conversation with Father Pawel Sass, M.A., S.T.L.

What becomes possible in our Catholic schools when pastors and principals see their partnership not simply as a responsibility, but as a gift?

That is the question I have been carrying with me since my recent conversation with Father Pawel Sass, Pastor of the Shrine of Saint Jude in Rockville, Maryland, for Episode 4 of the Joy in the Work series.

When we talk about strengthening Catholic schools, we rightfully talk about teachers, principals, students, families, curriculum, instruction, faith formation, and school culture. However, there is another relationship that I believe deserves much more of our attention: The pastor-principal partnership.

The pastor and principal have distinct roles and responsibilities, but they share something extraordinary: responsibility for advancing the mission of a Catholic school community. When that partnership is healthy, collaborative, prayerful, and rooted in mutual respect, the effects can extend far beyond the two people involved.

Teachers and students notice and experience it, and the school families and parishioners take notice and experience it. This partnership has a huge impact on a Catholic school culture. 

Partnership Has Shaped My Own Leadership Lens

Throughout my years serving Catholic education, I have been blessed to work alongside wonderful priests and to learn from spiritual leaders who modeled a positive approach to Catholic schools. Msgr. Chuck Kosanke in the Archdiocese of Detroit and Father John Williamson in the Archdiocese of Baltimore are two priests whose mentorship and example helped shape my own understanding of partnership.

They helped me see that the relationship between pastor and principal does not need to be defined by hierarchy, territoriality, or uncertainty about who controls what.

At its best, it can be characterized by trust, communication, shared mission, respect for one another’s expertise, prayer, laughter, and a genuine belief that we are better when we serve together.

At one point in our conversation, Father Pawel offered a wonderfully simple reminder:

“We are too blessed to be stressed.” (Sass, 2026)

It made me smile. Of course, leadership can be stressful. Catholic school leaders and pastors carry real responsibilities, difficult decisions, competing priorities, and the needs of many people. Father Pawel was not suggesting otherwise. What I heard in his words was an invitation to remember the blessings while carrying the burdens.

Leadership can become so consumed by what needs fixing that we forget to notice what is flourishing:

The student who finally understands. The teacher who stayed a few extra minutes to help. The family who expresses gratitude. The colleague who makes us laugh or put up a bulletin board. The parishioner who quietly supports the school. The opportunity to celebrate Mass together. The privilege of accompanying children as they grow in faith and knowledge, and the people God has placed beside us.

There will always be another problem to solve, but there will also always be something for which to give thanks. Perhaps part of sustaining joy in the work is learning to hold both realities at once.

Another image Father Pawel shared has stayed with me.

“Clean the cup.”

His reflection was that we need to clean the cup so we can be filled by the Holy Spirit and then empty ourselves again in service to others (Sass, 2026).

What a beautiful image for leadership. Those of us who serve others spend much of our lives pouring out. We give attention. We give encouragement, time, we solve problems and we listen. We teach, lead and we accompany others on this journey of life. But we cannot continually pour from a cup we never allow God to refill.

Prayer, reflection, rest, gratitude, community, and time with God are not distractions from leadership. They help prepare us for it.

Perhaps the question is not simply, “How much more can I give?”

Perhaps sometimes the better question is:

“What do I need to release so there is room for the Spirit to fill me again?”…Clean the cup, be filled, be poured out in service, return, and allow God to fill it again! There is a rhythm of vocation in that image that I find beautiful.

One of the most practical parts of my conversation with Father Pawel centered on conflict. Healthy partnerships are not partnerships without disagreement. Pastors and principals will disagree. Teachers and administrators will disagree. Colleagues will misunderstand one another. We are human beings doing important work together, so conflict will happen.

The question is not whether disagreement will occur. The question is what we do when it does.

Father Pawel offered three practices that are beautifully simple and profoundly useful.

1. Begin With Quiet, Personal Prayer

Before responding, reacting, emailing, calling, or entering the difficult conversation: Pray.

Not necessarily publicly, not performatively, but quietly and personally. Bring the situation to God before bringing it back to the other person. Prayer creates space between the emotion we are experiencing and the response we choose to make.

It invites us to ask: Am I listening? Am I seeking understanding? Is pride influencing my response? What might I be missing? Holy Spirit, how are You asking me to enter this conversation?

For Catholic leaders, perhaps prayer should not simply open our meetings. Perhaps it should also precede our disagreements.

2. Practice “Table Fellowship”

Father Pawel’s second recommendation may be my favorite:

Enjoy table fellowship. (Sass, 2026)

Sit down together, share a meal, have coffee, break bread, and just talk.

Father Pawel reminds us that there is something deeply human, and deeply Christian, about gathering around a table. The person across from us can become very easy to misunderstand when our interaction is reduced to an email, a disagreement, a meeting agenda, or a problem that needs solving. The table changes the posture. At the table, we remember the person. We listen differently. We tell stories. We laugh. We learn about one another, and we discover what we have in common.

I think sometimes the disagreement that seemed enormous becomes easier to navigate once the relationship returns to the center. There is wisdom in table fellowship that extends far beyond the pastor-principal relationship. What might change in our leadership teams, faculties, departments, and school communities if we spent a little more time breaking bread together?

3. Assume the Good

Father Pawel’s third piece of wisdom may be the most challenging:

Assume the good.

When someone says something that frustrates us, assume the good. When a decision surprises us, assume the good. When communication is imperfect, assume the good. When we disagree about the path forward, begin with the belief that the other person also cares about the mission.

Assuming the good does not mean avoiding accountability or pretending harmful behavior is acceptable. It means resisting the temptation to assign negative motives before we have taken the time to understand.

Imagine beginning a difficult pastor-principal conversation from this posture:

“I know you care about our school and our mission. Help me understand how you are seeing this.”

That is very different from beginning with:

“Why would you do this?”

One posture opens a door and the other may close it before the conversation even begins.

I keep returning to Father Pawel’s three practices:

  • Pray
  • Table Fellowship
  • Assume the good

They require no new program, no strategic plan, no committee, or budget. They require intentionality. I think this is one of the lessons emerging throughout this entire Joy in the Work series. Positive culture is often built through seemingly small, repeated relational practices.

How we enter the room, how we listen, how we choose to respond to mistakes, how we welcome people, how we handle a disagreement is important to the partnership. 

How we recognize another person’s gifts, how we repair a relationship, and how we choose to begin again can build trust and a strong foundation for the partnership. 

As shared in earlier episodes, small moments, repeated consistently, have a way of becoming culture.

A healthy pastor-principal partnership does not require the pastor to become the principal or the principal to become the pastor. Their roles are distinct, their gifts are different, and areas of expertise vary. That is not a weakness in the partnership, and it may be one of its greatest strengths.

Partnership asks us to recognize: You bring something to this mission that I cannot bring alone. In Catholic education, that recognition carries particular significance. The pastor brings spiritual leadership, sacramental life, theological formation, and pastoral care. The principal brings educational leadership, instructional expertise, organizational leadership, and the daily stewardship of the school community. Together, they can help ensure that Catholic identity is not simply something written in a mission statement, but becomes something people experience.

As the Joy in the Work series continues, another piece of the larger picture is becoming clearer to me.

  • Dr. Christina Mendez-Hall invited us to Lead with Joy,
  • Dr. Nicci Dowd encouraged us to Make Room for Joy,
  • Dr. Joy Roberts helped us explore Joy, Belonging, and the Power of Community, and 
  • Father Pawel Sass reminds us that there can also be Joy in the Partnership.

We do not have to carry the mission alone, and that in itself is a source of joy. There is someone beside us. Someone with different gifts. Someone who sees things we may not see. Someone with whom we can pray, and can break bread together. Someone with whom we can disagree and begin again. Someone who can remind us, on the difficult days, why we said yes to this work in the first place.

I left my conversation with Father Pawel inspired and grateful.

The Shrine of Saint Jude and St. Jude Catholic School in Rockville, Maryland, are blessed to have a pastor who so clearly values Catholic education and recognizes the importance of collaboration.

Our conversation has me reflecting on…

What becomes possible in our Catholic schools when pastors and principals see their partnership not simply as a responsibility, but as a gift?

Perhaps we create stronger relationships, and we navigate conflict with greater grace. Perhaps our teachers feel more supported, and families experience greater unity. Perhaps students encounter a more authentic witness of Christian community, and perhaps we make a little more room for joy.

I am grateful to Father Pawel Sass for sharing his faith, wisdom, humor, and JOY in Episode 4 of the Joy in the Work series:

Joy in the Partnership: The Pastor-Principal Relationship and the Culture We Create

Join the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/BqIdg4uuwCU or listen wherever you enjoy your favorite podcasts.

Maybe the next time conflict finds its way into our work, we can remember Father Pawel’s simple wisdom:

Pray, enjoy table fellowship, and assume the good! Maybe, every once in a while, remind ourselves: “We are too blessed to be stressed.” (Sass, 2026)

When we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen!

Reference

Ball, D. M. (2026). Joy in the partnership: The pastor-principal relationship and the culture we create [https://youtu.be/BqIdg4uuwCU]. Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball.

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August 26, 2026 · 7:21 AM

Joy in the Work | Episode 3

Joy, Belonging, and the Power of Community

A Conversation with Dr. Joy Roberts

What if one of the greatest sources of joy in our work is knowing that we belong to something larger than ourselves?

That is the question I have been carrying with me since my recent conversation with Dr. Joy Roberts for Episode 3 of the Joy in the Work series.

What a joy it was to welcome Joy to Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball for a wonderful conversation about joy, belonging, relationships, and the power of community.

Joy is the co-founder and president of Friendzy, an organization that partners with schools across the nation and across governance models to help create classroom and school cultures where students and educators experience a strong sense of belonging.

Throughout our conversation, Joy reminded us that strong communities do not happen by accident. They are built through relationships and through the everyday ways we help people know they are seen, valued, and connected.

Belonging Matters

Belonging is a word we hear frequently in education, but I wonder if we sometimes underestimate just how important it is.

At its heart, belonging communicates something profoundly human (Roberts, 2026), conveying I am known here, I am valued here, my presence matters here, and there is a place for me here.

Research gives us good reason to pay attention to these experiences. The Institute of Education Sciences has studied school belonging as part of the social, emotional, and behavioral context for teaching and learning, examining its connections with student engagement, well-being, behavior, and academic outcomes. In one rigorous middle school study involving more than 1,000 students, an intervention designed in part to address students’ concerns about belonging produced a statistically significant improvement in students’ reported social belonging and fewer behavioral referrals overall (Borman et al., 2019).

At the same time, the larger research base reminds us to be thoughtful about our claims. The What Works Clearinghouse’s review of social-belonging interventions found mixed effects on academic achievement. Belonging is not a magic program that guarantees an academic outcome. Rather, it is part of the relational and cultural environment in which learning takes place.

I think the distinction matters. Belonging is not another initiative to add to the school calendar, but is something people experience.

Culture Answers the Question: Do I Belong Here?

Think for a moment about the messages people receive throughout an ordinary school day.

A principal stands at the door and knows a student’s name. A veteran teacher checks on a new colleague. A student is invited into a group. A teacher’s idea is genuinely considered during a faculty meeting. A parent walks into the office and is warmly greeted. Someone notices when a colleague is having a difficult day. A student makes a mistake and discovers that the mistake does not diminish their value within the community.

None of these moments requires a new program, which Dr. Roberts reminds us that educators do not need, yet together, these moments communicate: You are seen, you are valued, you are connected, and you belong! That is culture.

Research on school marginalization offers another important lens. The Institute of Education Sciences has supported research examining how experiences of marginalization relate to student social relationships, engagement, well-being, behavior, and achievement. Importantly, student-teacher and student-peer relationships are among the factors researchers examine when trying to understand these connections.

In other words, relationships are not peripheral to the educational experience, but are part of it.

Belonging Is for the Adults Too

One of my favorite parts of my conversation with Joy was that we did not limit our discussion of belonging to students.

Students absolutely need to know that they belong, but so do teachers, and so do principals. We also cannot forget the importance of belonging is for our instructional assistants, counselors, administrative assistants, maintenance teams, professors, diocesan and system leaders, and everyone else who contributes to the life of a learning community. As someone who has spent much of my research and professional work thinking about school culture and teacher retention, I continue to come back to the importance of the environment in which educators are asked to do their work. We cannot continually ask educators to create communities of belonging for children while paying little attention to whether the adults themselves experience connection, trust, collaboration, and belonging.

Imagine the difference between a teacher thinking: “This is where I work.” and believing: “These are my people. My contribution matters here. We are doing something important together.”

That is a very different experience of work, and perhaps that is where belonging and joy begin to intersect.

We Were Never Meant to Do This Work Alone

Education is deeply relational work. There will always be difficult days. There will be students whose needs challenge us, lessons that do not unfold as planned, difficult conversations, competing priorities, and problems without immediate solutions.

Belonging does not eliminate any of those things. Community does, however, change how we carry them.

There is a profound difference between thinking: “I have to figure this out.” and knowing: “We will figure this out together.” That is the power of community; we learn from one another. In a healthy school culture we encourage, challenge, and celebrate one another! We sometimes carry one another, and need to remind each other why the work matters.

A Thread Through the Joy in the Work Series

As this series continues, I am beginning to see a beautiful thread emerging through these conversations. Dr. Christina Mendez-Hall invited us to Lead with Joy and consider how we choose to enter the work. Dr. Nicci Dowd encouraged us to Make Room for Joy by creating environments where people have permission to learn, make mistakes, collaborate, and grow. This week, Dr. Joy Roberts has invited us to think about joy, belonging, relationships, and the power of community.

Perhaps these ideas are not separate at all. We choose how we show up, and we choose to make room for one another. We build relationships, and through this we create belonging. We discover that we are part of something larger than ourselves, and together, we shape culture!

Belonging Is Built in the Small Moments

Perhaps one of the most encouraging things about belonging is that strengthening it does not always require a large-scale initiative.

It can begin today:

*Learn someone’s name,

*Pull up another chair,

*Ask a colleague what they think…and then LISTEN,

*Invite someone into the conversation,

*Notice who has become quiet,

*Celebrate someone’s contribution,

*Check on the new teacher,

*Listen to the student who needs a few extra minutes,

*Thank the person whose work frequently goes unnoticed, and/or,

*Remind someone that they matter.

These actions may seem small, but small moments, repeated consistently, have a way of becoming culture, and culture has the power to communicate something transformative: You do not have to earn your place here. You are part of us.

A Question I Am Carrying With Me

I am grateful to Joy for generously sharing her wisdom, research, experiences, and JOY.

As I reflect on our conversation, I continue to carry this question: What if one of the greatest sources of joy in our work is knowing that we belong to something larger than ourselves?

To take it one step further, perhaps the question for each of us is: What can I do today to help someone else know that they belong too?

Join the Conversation

Learn more about Friendzy and explore its impact reports by visiting Friendzy.co, including the Competency and Belonging Impact Report.

Join the conversation on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/OfkNJkom_rY

Or listen wherever you enjoy your favorite podcasts.

When we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen!

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

#SharingTheGood #JoyInTheWork #Belonging #SchoolCulture #SchoolLeadership #CatholicEducation #EducatorJoy #Community #Friendzy

Research and Resources

Borman, G. D., Rozek, C. S., Pyne, J., & Hanselman, P. (2019). Reappraising academic and social adversity improves middle school students’ academic achievement, behavior, and well-being. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 116(33), 16286–16291.

Institute of Education Sciences, What Works Clearinghouse. (2021). Social Belonging Interventions: Intervention Report. U.S. Department of Education.

Institute of Education Sciences. School-Based Marginalization, Social Behavioral Competencies, and Achievement: A Meta-Analysis. National Center for Education Research.

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August 13, 2026 · 4:20 PM

What Will Be the Legacy of Your Words?

There are moments in life when we are given the gift of seeing something familiar through a different lens.

This week has been one of those gifts for me.

I have had the privilege of spending several days with my mother- and father-in-law, who have been married for 65 years. I came into this week simply hoping to lend a helping hand. Instead, I have found myself deeply moved by what I have been allowed to witness. Sixty-five years of marriage…sixty-five years of building a life together.

Children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, joy and disappointment, laughter and probably a few tears, seasons of abundance and seasons of uncertainty. There has been sacrifice, moments of forgiveness, examples of faith. They have walked through moments of illness, celebration, and ordinary days that, when woven together, become an extraordinary life…and through it all, words.

Words spoken across kitchen tables and during long car rides. Words exchanged while raising 7 children and navigating the challenges of life. Words of encouragement during difficult seasons. Words of forgiveness, words of prayer, and words that communicated, in countless ways, I am here. I love you. We are in this together and let us share our joys and sorrows as grandpa taught us. 

This week, I have had the honor of hearing some of those words.

I have listened as prayers were offered for children, their spouses, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren by name. I have heard gratitude expressed for the men and women their children have become. I have witnessed love and devotion that have been cultivated over more than six decades. Somewhere along the way, I realized that I wasn’t simply listening to words.

I was witnessing their legacy. That realization has stayed with me.

It has caused me to look at my own words differently and to ask a question I have not been able to shake: What will be the legacy of my words?

The Words We Leave Behind

When we hear the word legacy, we may think about accomplishments, careers, possessions, awards, organizations built, books written, or things passed from one generation to another.

However,  perhaps some of the most important parts of our legacy will never appear on a résumé or hang on a wall. Perhaps our legacy also lives in the words other people carry because of us. Think for a moment about the people who have shaped your life.

Can you still hear some of their words? Maybe a parent told you, I’m proud of you. Maybe a teacher saw something in you before you could see it in yourself. Maybe a coach said, Try again. You’ve got this.

Maybe a friend sat beside you during a difficult season and reminded you that you did not have to walk through it alone. Sometimes a sentence spoken in seconds lives within another person for decades. Unfortunately, the opposite can also be true.

Words can discourage, words can diminish, words can divide, and words spoken carelessly in a moment can remain in someone’s heart long after the person who spoke them has forgotten the conversation entirely.

We don’t have to look far to see examples of words being used to tear down rather than build up. Our public discourse, social media feeds, workplaces, schools, communities, and sometimes even our homes can become filled with language that wounds rather than heals.

We may not be able to control all the words filling the world around us.

BUT we can decide what words enter the world through us!

For Educators: What Will Our Students Carry With Them?

As another school year begins, this question feels particularly important for educators.

Soon, classrooms will once again be filled with young people bringing their gifts, questions, hopes, insecurities, experiences, and possibilities through our doors.

They will learn countless lessons this year. They will solve equations, read stories, conduct experiments, study history, create art, collaborate, make mistakes, ask questions, and discover new things about themselves and the world around them.

They will forget some of what we teach, but what words might they carry with them?

What words will my students carry after they leave my classroom?

  • Did I tell them they were capable?
  • Did I cultivate curiosity rather than a fear of being wrong?
  • Did I encourage their sense of wonder?
  • Did my words communicate, I see something in you?
  • Did I help a young person recognize a gift or talent they had not yet discovered for themselves?

Educators are entrusted with an extraordinary opportunity. Sometimes a sentence that takes us five seconds to speak becomes part of the internal voice a young person carries for years.

What an incredible privilege, and what an incredible responsibility!

For Leaders: What Do People Experience in Our Presence?

The same reflection applies to leadership. Leadership inevitably involves words. We encourage, redirect, question, challenge, explain, listen, coach, correct, celebrate, and sometimes enter conversations we would rather avoid.

So I have been reflecting:

What words do people associate with being in my presence?

  • Did my words invite collaboration?
  • Did they make difficult conversations safer and more productive?
  • Did I listen with a genuine desire to understand?
  • Did I ask questions before making assumptions?
  • Have my words preserved another person’s dignity, even when disagreement was necessary?

Positive words do not require us to avoid difficult truths.

We can disagree without diminishing. We can correct without humiliating. We can hold someone accountable while still honoring their dignity. We can speak truth and remain kind. Sometimes the legacy of our leadership may be found not in the decisions we made, but in how people experienced themselves while making those decisions alongside us.

For Families: What Are We Handing to the Next Generation?

Perhaps this is the question that has touched me most deeply this week.

What language are we handing from one generation to the next through the words we choose today?

After 65 years of marriage, my mother- and father-in-law have created far more than a shared history. They have created a vocabulary of family…

  • Words of faith,
  • Words of prayer,
  • Words of gratitude, and 
  • Words spoken over children who eventually became adults, spouses, parents, and grandparents themselves.

Some of those words are being carried forward into another generation.

It makes me think about the words I choose with my own husband, my adult children, family members, and friends. What language am I helping to make part of our family’s story? What will they remember when I am no longer in the room? What will they repeat? What will they pass along? What words of mine might someday come back to them when they need encouragement, peace, courage, or hope?

Sometimes the Legacy Is in the Words We Choose Not to Say

This week has also reminded me that the legacy of our words isn’t only about what we say. Sometimes it is about the words we choose not to say:

  • The angry response we decide not to send,
  • The criticism that serves no constructive purpose, or
  • The last word we decide we don’t need to have.

Sometimes our legacy is found in the words we finally find the courage to say.

  • I was wrong,
  • I am sorry,
  • Please forgive me,
  • Help me understand,
  • I forgive you, and 
  • Let’s begin again!

There is tremendous power in an apology finally offered, a difficult conversation courageously entered, or grace extended when someone else’s words have hurt us.

Forgiveness has a language, too. So does humility, and so does GRACE.

The Language of Our Lives

As I have reflected this week, I have also thought about phrases that have become part of my own vocabulary over the years:

  • Calm your spirit,
  • Thankful Thursday,
  • Sharing the Good, and 
  • When we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen. 

They are simple words, but over time, repeated words can become invitations to a way of seeing.

This relfection led me to another question that reached my heart:

What phrases have I repeated so often that the people I love might someday hear them even when I am no longer in the room?

Perhaps that is one measure of a life well lived. Not simply: What did I accomplish? But: How did people feel after being in my presence?

  • Did my words give others courage?
  • Did they spark inquiry and curiosity?
  • Did they strengthen someone’s sense of belonging?
  • Did they bring peace into a difficult moment?
  • Did they point toward hope?
  • Did they help another person recognize the good within themselves?

If These Words Were Remembered…

I began this week hoping to be helpful. Instead, I feel as though I have been given a gift.

I have been given the opportunity to slow down, to listen, to observe, and to look through a different lens at a life and marriage built over 65 years.

There has been something sacred about witnessing love expressed not through grand gestures, but through presence, care, prayer, devotion, and words spoken faithfully over a lifetime.

I am grateful to have walked through this week looking through this lens, and perhaps that is why this reflection feels so important to share, because someone will carry something we say today:

  • A child,
  • A spouse,
  • A colleague,
  • A friend,
  • A student,
  • A family member, or 
  • Perhaps even a stranger.

We may never know which sentence stays with them.

So as we begin a new school year and step into another day filled with opportunities to encounter one another, perhaps we can pause before we speak, teach, correct, post, email, lead, or respond and ask:

If these words were remembered, would I be grateful they were mine?

Maybe we can ask one another another reflection question, too:

What words have stayed with you because someone believed in you, encouraged you, or helped you see something in yourself that you couldn’t yet see?

Those remembered words remind us that what we say today can become part of someone else’s tomorrow.

  • Choose words that encourage,
  • Choose words that invite wonder,
  • Choose words that heal,
  • Choose words that forgive,
  • Choose words that strengthen,
  • Choose words that preserve dignity,
  • Choose words that remind another person of their worth, and 
  • Choose words that help us see the good.

Because long after a conversation ends, our words may continue living in another person’s heart.

So, I leave you with the question that has accompanied me throughout this extraordinary week:

What will be the legacy of your words?

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

Assistant Professor

Marymount University

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August 3, 2026 · 9:31 PM

Fellowship, Conversation, and the Joy of Serving Middle School Students & Families

The Middle School Culture Blueprint series-Episode 1

One of the unexpected gifts of this season has been the opportunity to gather Catholic educators and leaders from across the nation in meaningful conversation. As Dr. LaTonya White and I continue our work on The Middle School Culture Blueprint, I have been provided a good opportunity to reflect on and be reminded that some of the most powerful professional learning happens when educators come together in fellowship, share what they are seeing in the field, and reflect honestly on what students and teachers need most. There is something deeply hopeful about bringing people together who serve in different schools and dioceses, yet carry the same commitment to helping students feel seen, supported, and loved.

The middle school years are so unique. Students are navigating understanding themselves, belonging, friendship, independence, emotion, peer pressure, and academic growth, often all in the same day. Those who serve middle school students understand that this work requires patience, humor, flexibility, structure, compassion, and joy. It also requires intentionality. What we do at the school level is so important. How we welcome teachers back, how we build routines, how we create opportunities for student voice, how we communicate with families, and how we support one another as teams all help shape the culture students experience.

This is why I am so grateful for the educators and leaders who have said yes to engaging in this conversation. They are not coming together to offer perfect answers. They are coming together to share reflections from the field, practical strategies, lived experience, and wisdom rooted in service. These conversations are supported by the literature that school culture is not built only through programs or plans. It is built in the daily interactions, team meetings, hallway moments, classroom routines, and faithful decisions made by educators who care deeply about the students placed before them.

Pulling educators together to share ideas is, quite honestly, fun. It is also cultivating joy in my own life. To listen to teachers and leaders speak with such love for their students, their colleagues, and Catholic education is a reminder that good is happening every day in our schools.

https://youtu.be/uMM1O_6Ygq8

When we create space for fellowship and conversation, we strengthen one another.

Fellowship reminds us that we are not doing this work alone. It is also a wonderful way to see how much wisdom already exists within the people serving on our campuses and in our diocesan communities.

I hope this work encourages school leaders to create similar spaces on their own campuses. Before the year begins, make time not only for logistics, but also for fellowship and table talk.

Invite teachers to reflect on what students need most. Ask teams what they want students to experience consistently across classrooms. Create room for laughter, honest conversation, prayer, and planning. When educators are given time to connect as people before they plan as professionals, the culture of the school is already being strengthened.

I am grateful to host this important conversation in Episode 1 of Middle School Culture Blueprint: Reflections from the Field: Creating a Positive Start to the 2026–2027 School Year. It is a privilege to welcome Dr. Nancy Baker, Mary Peters, Lynsie Reavis, Karina Lepkowski, and Tricia Florance as we reflect together on practical ways to support middle school teachers, students, families, and leaders. May these conversations continue to help us notice, name, and share the good happening in Catholic education.

You can also listen to these conversations anywhere you enjoy your podcasts.

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

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July 29, 2026 · 5:39 PM

An Educator Toolkit: 90 Positive Comments to Help Every Student Feel Seen, Valued, and Connected

Belonging Begins with the Words We Choose

Since 2012, I have shared resources via this Unlock the Teacher blog focusing on positive comments, praise, and how to create positive classroom environments with a reminder that words matter! Since that time, these posts have received more than 1.3 million views. This continued reach has reinforced something I have believed throughout my years in education, that teachers and school leaders are searching for practical language that helps them recognize the good in students.

Positive words can encourage students and strengthen relationships. Yet, as our understanding of school culture continues to grow, we are also invited to think more deeply about the messages our words communicate.

Our comments can do more than acknowledge appropriate behavior, completed work, or academic performance. They can communicate:

  • I see you.
  • I value your ideas.
  • Your voice matters.
  • You are capable of growth.
  • You are an important member of this community.
  • You belong here.

School connectedness exists when students believe that the adults and peers in their school care about them as individuals and care about their learning. This sense of being valued, supported, and included is associated with stronger engagement, attendance, academic outcomes, and overall well-being.

Relationships are not built only through large programs or special events. They are shaped through daily interactions: the greeting at the classroom door, the response to a student’s question, the note written on an assignment, the conversation following a mistake, and the words chosen when a student takes a risk.

Research on relationship-centered classrooms emphasizes the importance of authentic affirmation, active listening, student agency, and opportunities for young people to know that their voices are taken seriously.

Student voice is more than allowing students to speak. It includes providing meaningful opportunities for them to influence their learning, make choices, offer feedback, participate in decisions, and see that their contributions can lead to action.

This updated educator toolkit offers 90 positive comments organized around nine dimensions of belonging. The statements can be adapted for:

  • Daily classroom conversations
  • Written feedback
  • Student conferences
  • Report cards and progress reports
  • Notes or messages sent home
  • Family conferences
  • Advisory periods
  • Morning meetings
  • Restorative conversations
  • Celebrations of student growth

These comments are not intended to become generic scripts or empty praise. They are starting points. The most powerful affirmations are sincere, specific, timely, and connected to something an educator has genuinely noticed.

1. Welcoming Every Student

  1. I am glad you are here today.
  2. Your presence adds something important to our classroom.
  3. You are an important member of this learning community.
  4. There is a place for your ideas in this classroom.
  5. I appreciate the energy you brought into the room today.
  6. I noticed that you came in ready to participate and contribute.
  7. Your experiences help our class learn and grow.
  8. You do not have to know every answer to belong in this classroom.
  9. Thank you for bringing your ideas, interests, and questions with you.
  10. Our classroom community is stronger because you are part of it.

2. Recognizing Identity and Voice

  1. Your perspective helped us see this topic differently.
  2. Thank you for sharing an idea that was important to you.
  3. You expressed your thinking with honesty and confidence.
  4. Your experiences give you insights that can help others learn.
  5. I appreciate how clearly you explained the reasoning behind your opinion.
  6. You asked us to consider something we had not discussed before.
  7. Your voice helped shape the direction of our conversation.
  8. You found a meaningful way to communicate your ideas.
  9. You advocated for yourself respectfully and clearly.
  10. Your contribution showed that there can be more than one valuable way to understand a topic.

3. Encouraging Effort and Growth

  1. I can see the growth you have made since you began this work.
  2. You used feedback to strengthen your thinking.
  3. You tried a new strategy when your first approach did not work.
  4. You asked for the support you needed to move forward.
  5. You stayed engaged even when the work became challenging.
  6. You set a goal and took meaningful steps toward reaching it.
  7. You are learning how to recognize which strategies work best for you.
  8. You took ownership of your learning today.
  9. You made a thoughtful choice about how to improve your work.
  10. Your progress shows what can happen when you remain open to learning.

4. Affirming Curiosity and Courage

  1. Your question helped deepen our learning.
  2. You were willing to say that you did not understand, and that took courage.
  3. You respectfully challenged an idea and encouraged us to think more carefully.
  4. You took an academic risk by sharing your thinking before you were certain that you for trusting our class.
  5. You followed your curiosity and discovered something new.
  6. You explored more than one possible answer.
  7. You made a connection that helped bring this concept to life.
  8. You were open to revising your thinking when you encountered new information.
  9. You asked for evidence instead of simply accepting an answer.
  10. Your curiosity helped make today’s learning more meaningful for everyone.

5. Strengthening Collaboration

  1. You made room for another person’s voice.
  2. You listened to understand, not simply to respond.
  3. You built upon a classmate’s idea in a respectful way.
  4. You helped your group identify a path forward.
  5. You disagreed respectfully while remaining open to another perspective.
  6. You asked a question that encouraged someone else to participate.
  7. You used your strengths to support the work of the group.
  8. You accepted responsibility for your part of the team’s work.
  9. You noticed when the group needed encouragement and offered it.
  10. You helped your team move forward without taking over the work.

6. Recognizing Kindness and Care

  1. You noticed that someone needed support and chose to help.
  2. The care you showed helped another person feel valued.
  3. You included someone who might otherwise have felt left out.
  4. You treated another person’s ideas with dignity and respect.
  5. You chose kindness even when the situation was difficult.
  6. You helped create a space where someone felt comfortable asking a question.
  7. You offered a sincere apology and worked to repair the relationship.
  8. You celebrated someone else’s success without taking attention away from them.
  9. Your words helped another person feel encouraged.
  10. You showed empathy by trying to understand how someone else might be feeling.

7. Building Responsibility and Trust

  1. I can depend on you to follow through on your commitments.
  2. You completed the responsibility you accepted.
  3. You made a responsible choice, even when no one was reminding you.
  4. You used your time in a way that supported your learning.
  5. You took care of our shared space and materials.
  6. You were honest about what happened and helped us find a solution.
  7. You recognized when you needed assistance and asked for it.
  8. You accepted responsibility for your choice without blaming someone else.
  9. You came prepared and ready to contribute.
  10. You used your independence while also knowing when to seek guidance.

8. Supporting Resilience and Reflection

  1. You paused to think before deciding what to do next.
  2. You did not allow one difficult moment to define the rest of your day.
  3. You changed your approach when you realized something was not working.
  4. You identified what you needed in order to begin again.
  5. You recognized a challenge and made a plan for addressing it.
  6. You gave yourself time to learn instead of expecting immediate perfection.
  7. You used a mistake as information for your next step.
  8. You returned to the work after feeling frustrated.
  9. You were patient with yourself while learning something new.
  10. You reflected honestly on your choices and identified how you would respond differently next time.

9. Creating Classroom Community

  1. Your actions helped make our classroom more welcoming.
  2. You helped create a space where others felt comfortable participating.
  3. You contributed an idea that improved our classroom community.
  4. You invited others to help make a decision.
  5. You reminded us of the expectations we created together.
  6. You helped our class solve a problem in a fair and respectful way.
  7. You shared a strength or talent that enriched our learning.
  8. You helped us recognize and celebrate someone else’s growth.
  9. You made a choice that supported both your learning and the learning of others.
  10. You showed through your actions that everyone has something meaningful to contribute.

Moving From Praise to Partnership

Positive comments become even more powerful when they invite students to recognize their own growth. Instead of ending the interaction after an affirmation, educators can add a reflective question.

For example:

  • You stayed engaged even when the assignment became difficult. What helped you keep going?
  • You made room for another person’s voice. What did you notice about the group after you did that?
  • You tried a new strategy when the first one did not work. How did you decide what to try next?
  • Your perspective helped us see the topic differently. What gave you the confidence to share it?
  • You advocated for yourself respectfully. How might you use that skill in another situation?

These questions move the conversation from adult approval to student reflection. As an educator, you are identifing something meaningful, and the student is invited to name the choices, strategies, and strengths that contributed to the outcome.

Over time, this approach can help students develop the language to say:

  • I know how I learn.
  • I can make thoughtful choices.
  • I can ask for what I need.
  • I can contribute to my community.
  • I can grow.

A Belonging-Centered Comment Checklist

Words Help Shape Culture

Positive language does not mean ignoring mistakes, avoiding difficult conversations, or removing accountability. Belonging-centered classrooms maintain clear expectations while communicating that a student’s mistake does not remove the student from the community.

Students need to hear more than what they should stop doing. They also need language that helps them understand what they are doing well, how they are growing, how their choices affect others, and how they can contribute.

There will always be a need to redirect behavior, offer correction, and establish boundaries. The question is whether students also hear:

-I believe you can make a different choice.

-You are still an important member of this community.

-Let us think together about what happened.

-What do you need to move forward?

-How can you help repair the situation?

-I am here to help you begin again.

The language educators use becomes part of the environment students experience each day. A carefully chosen comment may appear to be a small gesture, but to a student, it can communicate something much larger:

My teacher sees me. 

My ideas matter.

I am capable.

I have choices.

I can make a difference.

I belong here.

As educators prepare classrooms, develop lessons, establish routines, and welcome students into a new year of learning, may we also prepare the language we will use.

Belonging is strengthened one interaction at a time.

When we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen.

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

References and Additional Resources

Ball, D. M. (2012, July 22). 100 positive comments to utilize when referencing student behavior. Unlock the Teacher.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2024, November 18). School connectedness helps students thrive.

Hernández, L. E., Darling-Hammond, L., & Nielson, N. (2024, November 21). Cultivating relationships in secondary classrooms: Practices that matter. Learning Policy Institute.

Regional Educational Laboratory Pacific. (2025). Including voice in education: Addressing equity through student and family voice in classroom learning. Institute of Education Sciences.

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July 14, 2026 · 7:23 PM

JOY of the Work- A Conversation with Dr. Anita Harkins-Mehsling

As we bring our three-part summer series, Belonging, School Culture, and the Joy of the Work, to a close, I find myself filled with gratitude.

I am deeply grateful to Dr. Anita Harkins-Mehsling for generously sharing her research, leadership experience, wisdom, and heart throughout these conversations. Anita helped us pause and consider what it truly means for people to experience belonging within a school community.

Belonging is more than entering a building, attending a meeting, or being included on a faculty list. It is the experience of being seen, known, valued, supported, and connected to something meaningful.

Throughout this series, Anita reminded us that belonging does not happen by accident. It is cultivated through INTENTIONAL leadership, authentic listening, trust, communication, presence, and relationships.

In our first conversation, we explored why belonging matters, and in our second, we reflected on the important role leaders play in creating and sustaining cultures where people feel welcome, heard, and valued. In our final conversation, we connected belonging to joy, teacher retention, school stability, and the overall health of a school community. It felt especially important to end this series with joy.

Joy is not an extra benefit of a healthy school culture. Joy is part of what helps sustain the people who serve within it. Joy is synergistic! Joy does not mean that every day is easy. It does not mean that challenges disappear, difficult conversations are avoided, or the demands of leadership become lighter.

A joyful school community is not a perfect school community.

It is a community where people continue to notice the good, name the good, and carry the good forward together, even during demanding seasons. Joy grows when people know they are not alone. As a school team, exercising the muscle of gratitude can be transformational!

Joy within a school community grows when faculty and staff feel connected to one another and to the school’s mission. It becomes visible when people are encouraged to share their gifts, when contributions are recognized, and when leaders create space for gratitude, celebration, reflection, and genuine connection.

Joy is strengthened when it is shared. This is why I believe joy must be more than something we hope people eventually experience. Joy can become the first step we use in leading others.

Before beginning with the agenda, we can begin by seeing the people in front of us. Before moving immediately to the next task, we can pause to recognize someone’s contribution. Before focusing only on what needs to be corrected, completed, or improved, we can name what is already good and growing. Before assuming the worst, we can choose to see through the eyes of grace. Leading with joy does not ignore reality. It helps us face reality with hope, gratitude, courage, and a renewed sense of purpose.

As leaders prepare for the 2026-27 school year, there will be calendars to finalize, meetings to plan, classrooms to prepare, new employees to welcome, and many decisions to make. Within all of that important work, we can also ask:

How will people experience belonging here? [a leadership opportunity]

How will faculty and staff know they are valued? [essential building block for trust]

How will we listen to one another? [a powerful visual that you are being present]

How will we help new members of the community feel supported? [essential reflection question]

How will we keep joy visible when the year becomes busy? [because it will]

How will we notice and share the good? [my favorite]

The answers do not always require complicated programs or large initiatives. Belonging and joy are often strengthened through small, sincere, and consistent practices.

A handwritten note, a meaningful check-in, or a moment of gratitude at the beginning of a faculty meeting can really help build and maintain a positive school culture.

A celebration of a small victory, or a question asked with genuine care, demonstrates a leader who listens and follows through.

One small practice, offered consistently and sincerely, can become part of the building blocks for a joyful school campus.

My gratitude to Anita for helping us all reflect more deeply on the cultures we are called to build and sustain. I want to thank her for reminding us that belonging is experienced through both our words and our actions. Through this summer series, we are reminded that when people feel seen, known, valued, and connected, joy has room to grow and THRIVE!

As this summer series closes, I hope each of us will carry one invitation into the new school year:

Let joy be the first step. Let it shape how we welcome and guide our listening and communication with others.

May we continue to seek to see the people behind the work.

As school leaders or teachers, let us seek joy and let it help us build communities where educators, students, and families know they belong.

As a sharing the good community, let us continue to train our eyes to see the good, because when we do, amazing things happen.

Stay tuned…

Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball is honored to welcome Dr. Christina Mendez-Hall on August 13 as we continue the conversation about joy, why it is so important, and how leaders and teachers can allow joy to become the first step as they enter the 2026-27 school year.

Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball is now available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and iHeartRadio.

What began with the simple hope of encouraging at least one person is growing into a space where stories, faith, reflection, research, and practical wisdom can be shared.

I feel deeply honored to help notice and share some of the good happening in our schools, communities, churches, families, and the world.

Thank you to everyone who has listened, subscribed, encouraged me, and prayed for me on this journey. Scan the QR code for your preferred platform and join me as we continue Sharing the Good.

Until then, pause, exhale, reflect, and keep sharing the good.

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

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July 1, 2026 · 5:47 PM

Belonging Begins When People Know They Matter

Summer Series 2026: Belonging, School Culture, and the Joy of the Work

Featuring Dr. Anita Harkins-Mehsling

This adventure in learning new ways to communicate, connect, and share the good in education has been fun, meaningful, and, quite honestly, joyful.

I am so grateful to Dr. Anita Harkins-Mehsling, Associate Superintendent for the Archdiocese of Omaha, for spending time with me in conversation and reflection for the first episode of Summer Series 2026: Belonging, School Culture, and the Joy of the Work on Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball.

Our first conversation focused on a topic that is deeply connected to the heart of education: belonging.

Belonging is more than being present. It is more than being included on a roster, invited into a building, or welcomed into a room. True belonging begins when people do not just enter a space, but feel that they matter within it (Harkins-Mehsling, 2026).

Students need to know they are seen, known, valued, and loved. Teachers need to know their work matters and that they are part of something larger than themselves. Families need to experience school communities as places of trust, welcome, and partnership. Leaders need to be intentional about creating the conditions where acceptance, connection, and community are not accidental, but cultivated.

During this episode, Dr. Harkins-Mehsling and I reflected on how belonging is experienced across school campuses and leadership communities. We discussed the ways people come to understand whether they are accepted, valued, connected, and part of a community. These are not small ideas. They shape the daily experience of school life, and the summer is a perfect time for school leaders and teachers to reflect on how they will create an environment and attitude of belonging for students, parents, and one another for the upcoming school year.

When people feel that they belong, they are more likely to participate, contribute, trust, grow, and remain connected to the mission. Belonging strengthens the culture of a school because it reminds each person: You matter here!

As I continue to reflect on my own research on teacher retention, school climate, leadership, collaboration, and culture, I am reminded, through this conversation with Anita, that positive school culture is not built by chance. It is shaped through intentional leadership, trust, and shared commitment. Belonging is one of the ways we begin that work.

This summer series is an invitation to pause, exhale, reflect, and consider how we can continue to build schools and communities where people feel seen and supported. It is also an invitation to celebrate the joy of the work. Education is hard and holy work. It requires courage, patience, faith, and love. But it also brings great joy when we recognize the good all around us and the reasons we said “yes” to serve in education.

I am thankful for leaders like Dr. Anita Harkins-Mehsling who continue to share wisdom, experience, and encouragement with the broader educational community. Her insights remind us that belonging is not simply a program or initiative but it is a way of being together.

Episode 1 begins this reflective journey.

Episode 2 will air on July 6, and our conversation will focus on school culture. Anita and I will share strategies we have learned through our combined 50+ years of serving in education to help create, strengthen, and maintain positive school cultures.

I value feedback and would love to continue the conversation. Please message me or drop a note in the comment section after watching. What helps you feel a sense of belonging in a school or leadership community? What practices have helped strengthen culture in your own setting?

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things, notice the good around us, and build communities where every person knows they matter

Denise

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June 18, 2026 · 5:39 PM

When Shared Mission Becomes a Shared Walk

Why Fellowship is Essential with Karina Lepkowski, Principal, Most Holy Trinity

Fellowship is more than networking. It is more than collaboration around a project, committee, or a professional learning day. Fellowship is what happens when trust is built over time, shared mission becomes a shared walk, and colleagues become the trusted voices we return to because we know they will listen, encourage, challenge, and help us see more clearly.

Today, I had the joy of meeting with Karina Lepkowski, Principal at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Academy in the Archdiocese of Detroit. Karina and I have been collaborators for 14 years. She served on my team at St. Regis Catholic School, we have worked together on committees, and she has led sessions for professional learning days I developed for the Archdiocese of Baltimore. Over the years, our professional paths have crossed in many meaningful ways. But perhaps one of the most treasured parts of our story is this: Karina introduced my son to music and taught him how to play the alto saxophone. His love of jazz and the gift of having music in his heart will last him a lifetime. For that, I will always be grateful to this amazing educator, and I am honored to call her a friend now.

About Karina

Karina Lepkowski is a distinguished Catholic educator and graduate of the University of Notre Dame’s Alliance for Catholic Education (ACE) Mary Ann Remick Leadership Program. As a member of Cohort 18, she earned a Master of Arts in Educational Leadership and has continued to serve Catholic education with dedication, wisdom, and heart. Her leadership and service were also recognized by the Catholic Foundation of Michigan, which honored her with an Amazing Catholic Educator Award.

A Servant Leader

While these accomplishments speak beautifully to Karina’s professional impact, what I value most is the way she leads through relationships. She is the kind of educator and leader who listens deeply, shares generously, and reminds others that the work of Catholic education is strengthened when we walk alongside one another.

As Karina and I caught up and discussed projects we are working on, I was reminded of something important. Educational leaders need trusted voices. We need people who understand the work, who know the heart behind the work, and who can offer honest insight because the relationship is rooted in care. These are the colleagues who help us process ideas, sharpen our thinking, and stay grounded in mission. They remind us that leadership was never meant to be a lonely road.

Research continues to affirm what many of us have experienced in our own leadership journeys. Strong professional learning is collaborative, sustained, and grounded in reflection. Darling-Hammond, Hyler, and Gardner (2017) found that effective professional development creates opportunities for educators to share ideas, collaborate in job-embedded ways, and build communities that can positively influence the culture and instruction of a school or system. Similarly, research on collective teacher culture points to the importance of shared goals, supportive colleagues, collective efficacy, and belonging as important dimensions of a healthy school culture.

This is why fellowship matters. When leaders intentionally build relationships of trust and professional friendship, they strengthen the culture around them. Fellowship helps us become better listeners. It helps us ask better questions. It gives us space to pause, reflect, and renew. It also helps us remember that the work of education is deeply human. Behind every initiative, every professional learning session, every school improvement goal, and every strategic plan are people who need encouragement, connection, and belonging.

In my own research on teacher retention, school climate, leadership, collaboration, and culture emerged as important areas of focus in understanding how educators experience their work and what helps them remain committed to the mission (Ball, 2023). Positive school culture is not built by accident. It is formed through intentional relationships, shared purpose, and the daily decision to walk alongside one another.

As educational leaders, we often spend time developing strategic muscles: planning, decision-making, problem-solving, communication, and execution. These are important. However, I would share that research supports that we also need to be just as intentional about building the muscle of fellowship. Collective teacher culture is strengthened through shared goals and values, collective efficacy, supportive colleagues, belonging, and job satisfaction, all of which remind us that trusted professional relationships are central to healthy school communities (Skaalvik & Skaalvik, 2021). Who are the trusted voices we call when we need to think out loud? Who helps us see the good when the work feels heavy? Who reminds us of who we are and why this work matters?

The summer weeks offer a beautiful invitation to pause and reach out. Send the text, make the call, or schedule the coffee. Technology offers us the wonderful ability to connect via Zoom, Meet, FaceTime, etc. We really have no excuse not to engage with the technological tools at our fingertips today. I encourage you to reconnect with the colleague who has walked part of the journey with you. Take time to say thank you to the person who helped shape your leadership, your school community, or even your family in ways that will last a lifetime. Gratitude has a way of lowering our stress levels and refocusing our lens to see the good all around us.

When we make time to walk alongside one another, we build the kind of school culture where others can do the same.

This year, my research has continued to center around school culture and team development. In my two latest projects, When We Train Our Eyes to See the Good, Amazing Things Happen and The Middle School Culture Blueprint, which I am co-authoring with Dr. LaTonya White, I have been reflecting deeply on the gift of fellowship and why it matters so much for educational leaders. If you would like to share your thoughts, please send me a message or leave a comment. I welcome the feedback and insights.

Dr. LaTonya White and Dr. Denise Ball, National Catholic Leadership Convention 2026

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,
Denise

References

Ball, D. M. (2023). Improving teacher retention within Archdiocese of Washington schools [Doctoral dissertation, Liberty University]. Liberty University Scholars Crossing.

Darling-Hammond, L., Hyler, M. E., & Gardner, M. (2017). Effective teacher professional development. Learning Policy Institute.

Skaalvik, E. M., & Skaalvik, S. (2021). Collective teacher culture: Exploring an elusive construct and its relations with teacher autonomy, belonging, and job satisfaction. Social Psychology of Education, 24, 1389–1406.

United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. (2011). New American Bible, Revised Edition.

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June 11, 2026 · 4:07 PM

Charisms, Core Beliefs, and the Joy of the Work…our “Why”

I was so INSPIRED by my conversation this morning with Dr. Barbara Edmondson. I have known Barbara for almost a decade, and every time I leave her presence, I feel encouraged, reflective, and inspired.

In our conversation, Barbara spoke about the importance of educational leaders knowing their charisms and core beliefs. I could not agree more. When we understand the gifts we have been given and the beliefs that ground us, we are better able to serve with clarity, purpose, and joy.

For many educators and school leaders, the next 9 to 12 weeks offer a beautiful opportunity to pause, exhale, and reflect on the “why” behind our service. Why did we choose this work? What gifts have we been called to share? What core beliefs continue to guide us when the days are long and the work feels heavy? Where did we see joy this year? Where did we help create it for someone else?

These are not small questions, but they are the questions that help us return to purpose.

Joy is not meant to be held alone. Joy is synergistic! When joy is shared among a school team, it strengthens culture, builds connection, and reminds us that the work we do matters. Recent research on teacher teams affirms that creating and sustaining a positive school climate requires ongoing collaborative work and that teachers experience their teams as important support structures connected to shared responsibility, safety, openness, and school climate work (Hammar Chiriac et al., 2024). A joyful school community does not mean a perfect school community. It means a community where people are willing to see the good, name the good, and carry the good forward together.

As we close one school year and begin looking toward the next, perhaps this is an invitation to pause and reflect:

*What are the charisms I bring to this work?

*What core beliefs guide the way I serve?

*Where have I seen goodness unfold this year?

*Who helped me remember the joy of the work?

*Who needs to hear a simple and sincere “thank you”?

To every educator, school leader, staff member, parent, and community partner who continues to serve others: thank you!

Thank you for the seen and unseen ways you show up. Thank you for the encouragement you offer, the patience you practice, the hope you carry, and the light you bring into your school communities.

The work you do matters, and when we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen.

Thankful Thursday Minute

 

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things,

Denise

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June 3, 2026 · 4:19 PM

When We Train Our Eyes to See the Good, Amazing Things Happen…An End-of-the-School-Year Message from Dr. Christina Mendez-Hall

Last night, I officially posted the welcome message for my new YouTube channel, Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball. This morning, as I met with Dr. Christina Mendez-Hall, Assistant Superintendent for the Diocese of Arlington, I was reminded again why this space matters. Dr. Mendez-Hall is so full of joy, and I invited her to share an end-of-the-school-year inspirational message for the channel. It was one of those simple, grace-filled moments that confirmed the “why” behind this new chapter.

For the last eight-plus years, I have been researching, writing, speaking, and working alongside school leaders and educators on team building, teacher retention, and the development of strong, healthy school cultures. Again and again, one simple truth continues to rise to the surface: educators and school leaders need to be seen, heard, encouraged, and reminded that their work matters.

When adults in a school community feel valued, supported, and connected to a shared mission, the entire campus is strengthened. Joy becomes more visible, trust grows, collaboration deepens, and students benefit. Schools become more stable, dynamic, and hope-filled places of learning.

That is the heart behind Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball.

My goal is not to create a perfect YouTube channel. It is not to chase likes or pretend that life, leadership, education, or faith are without challenges. My hope is to create a real and authentic space where we collectively can share the good, notice the good, and perhaps inspire at least one person who needs encouragement on any given day.

I have been blessed throughout my life to be surrounded by amazing people who have encouraged me, challenged me, prayed for me, and helped me see the good even in difficult seasons. After retiring last June, following 27 years of service in education, I have found myself with more time to reflect, write, listen, and reconnect with many of you who have followed this blog since it was created 15 years ago.

The Unlock the Teacher blog has received more than 1.5 million views over the years and continues to average around 100 views a day. The feedback received on this blog humbles me deeply — thank you! Current research highlights the need for us to truly see and hear one another, and I would like to help make sure those placed on my path during this journey of life feel seen and heard.

So today, I want to personally invite you to continue the conversation with me in a new way.

Please visit Sharing the Good with Dr. Denise Ball on YouTube. Subscribe if the message speaks to you. Share it with an educator, leader, parent, or friend who may need a reminder that goodness is still unfolding.

Check out Christina’s inspirational minute message by clicking the link below. This is my first YouTube “short”…thank you for the grace!

An End-of-the-School-Year Inspirational Message from Dr. Christina Mendez-Hall

I am a novice in this space, and I am very much a lifelong learner. If you have a tip, suggestion, idea, or story to share, I would love to hear from you. Send me a message and share the good you are seeing. Tell me about the people who are carrying light in your school, family, parish, workplace, or community.

I believe this deeply, that when we train our eyes to see the good, amazing things happen.

We can do more for the world when we share the good together, one word, one story, and one action at a time.

May we continue to seek knowledge in all things!

Denise

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